I don't think their refusal was entirely motivated by misogyny (one of them was a woman...), but it may well have had something to do with the fact that, in their eyes, I was "just a little housewife".
Now. A word to the wise: Don't underestimate the housewife.
She:
- looks after children, and is the one to introduce them to the world. In religious terms, faith is often passed on through the mother - just look at the traditions in Judaism.
- from a political/economic perspective, she is generally responsible for most of the household outgoings - who's writing the shopping lists round here? Oh yes. ME.
- is also a cook-driver-cleaner-teacher-nurse-nanny-painter-interior designer-planner... the list goes on.
So, to get to the point, any housewife is more than worth talking to. Maybe the man is the head of the household - but to paraphrase the mother in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, "the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head aaaaany way she wants".
Also, this particular housewife has two masters' degrees and runs her own company. Just sayin', missionaries. Just sayin'.
I love this post, Catherine, and completely agree. Being a housewife is underestimated in our culture, and is even considered demeaning. When I tell people what I do I tend do so apologetically, as if I have an embarrassing career. I'm trying to break this bad habit, and tell people proudly about my very demanding (yet very rewarding!) job.
ReplyDeleteGosh, I do exactly the same thing! I'm trying to break the habit too...maybe if we all try to be proud of what we do people will start to look at it differently? The problem around here is that SAH/WAHMs are a seriously endangered species in France - I only know of one other in our village, and she's English!
ReplyDeleteIncidentally, I hope you told them to come back. I like talking about theology with them :)
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